Gynephilia / Homosexuality  (Mature subject matter)

Last updated: 13-Jun-2017

Forward and tolerance needed!!!

With all the tolerance world-wide being accepted, concerning homosexuality, there is still the problems dealing with it in Christianity. Tolerance, compassion and understanding should be a consideration in conversations when dealing with any topic that a human being's emotions are effected along with prejudices. 

Often it is unfortunately seen and heard that Christians, with best intentions and/or with judgmental attitudes, try to tell others about their sinful actions in many areas besides this topic, which should not be done and results in pushing away others from saving knowledge and healing.  There is a time and place for discussing any matter which the counselling should be done when there is a genuine desire by the receiving person and the person is receptive, which is one of the roles that the Holy Spirit performs. 

History has shown that a great deal of harm has been done towards people who are gynephilia or homosexual which have resulted in murder, castrations, exiling, bodily harm and psychological damage.   This is absolutely wrong!

There still remains several questions in this area of sexual orientation.  First question is a person born with attractions towards the same gender?  Second question is it acquired?  The less discussed follow up third question in this area is if someone can change their orientation?  The writer believes the answer is ‘yes’ for all three questions.  In a parallel area, consider the effects of pornography which often leads to homosexuality, bisexuality and even potentially deviant sexual behaviors.  

Disclaimer 1: The author of this topic is not a psychiatrist or trained in this area.  The purpose of this topic is to try to bring understanding, tolerance, love and compassion for all people ill-regardless of sexual preference.  This topic is not discussing deviant sexual behaviors that hurt, force, embarrass, humiliate, rape, do psychological damage, do body damage and/or involve potential murder or suicide in an act of sexual aggression.  It is an unfortunate state of civilization to have to mention the exclusions of this topic!  Furthermore, the author, has close friends who are very loyal and of high integrity who love Jesus Christ and are same gender sexual orientated.  Yes, they are aware of the scriptures dealing with this topic.

The true Christian Perspective required

With all of the years of being a Christian, the author has noticed that this topic is a Taboo area which is never discussed, unless is severely derogatory, and that is unfortunate when so many Christians and non-Christians experiencing hatred and worse because of their sexual orientation.  The question which we should ask ourselves, does God love everyone and want them to accept Jesus Christ as their Savior so that they can be conformed to the likeness of Christ through our daily walk and help of the Holy Spirit?  The answer is absolutely yes and John 3 so wonderfully tells us!

Christians always need to remember that everyone of us are sinners, who in our thoughts and deeds committed, are capable of very grievous sinful acts during our lifetime that have nothing to do with sexual orientation.  Many Christians often want to put themselves the role of God to judge not knowing the end of another person's lifetime may beautifully show repentance from many areas of sinful acts.  Some quick examples of thoughts, which are sometimes committed by us all:

Mark 7:21-23 For from within, out of the heart of man, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride, foolishness. All these evil things come from within, and they defile a person.
Matthews 15:19 For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander.

Always remember that our fallen natures are always diametrically opposed to God.  Our body becomes the dwelling of the Holy Spirit when we are Born Again, John 3:3, and the Holy Spirit helps to convict our sinful thoughts and deeds.  Note that it is possible to become desensitized to knowing right from wrong where God always gives us the final decisions on choices.   We all are a "work in progress" for our entire life.   The key to all of our sinful natures, that the Scriptures point out, is repentance.  Consider the miss-understood idea of loosing Salvation which is often cited incorrectly when dealing with this topic.

Below are a few scriptures that need to be considered with regards to this topic.  Remember that scriptures interprets scripture and while these scripture references contain some warnings, a commandment and promise for the thief on the cross, we know that Jesus Christ died for all sinners so that we all could have salvation.  Salvation is a free gift where inheriting in the Kingdom of God is rewards based on the entirety of life lead and the deeds done for God.  None of us truly know of a person's Salvation status and all of us Christians have a tendency to think we can look at a person's outward appearance or actions to determine if they will be going to Heaven and if they are Saved, which is wrong.

One of the best articles, found by this author, discussing the scriptures and misconceptions on this subject is on this link (<- click on the blue link).  If the link is missing, then see this PDF

Some scriptural references to consider regarding same gender sexuality which do not stand alone and need to be considered with the whole Word of God:

 

The Warning and Negative Aspect which just requires us all to Repent

Lev 20:13 If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.  Currently, we are living in a different dispensation of Grace and Mercy where immediate consequences are unique which verses like 1John 2:1 discuss.
1 Cor 6:9 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men. 
Rom 1:21-32 ... 24 Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonor their own bodies between themselves: ...
 

The Positive Aspect and Potential

1 Cor 5:1-13 Our bodies can come under judgement so that our Spirit can be saved!  "the destruction of the flesh, so that his spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord. …"
Mark 12:31 The second is this, "You shall love your neighbor as yourself.  There is no other commandment greater than these."
Luke 23:43 Jesus answered him, "Truly I tell you, today you will be with me in paradise."  This is a very beautiful scripture that points that even at the last moment, we can be Saved.  Imagine the credits of eternal rewards that this thief on the cross has been earning because of all the people who have read this scripture and repented from many types of sinful actions.

 

If it is possible to change a Sexual Orientation towards the same gender, how can it be done?

While the author of this topic is not attracted to the same gender, the author has firsthand knowledge of someone who was formerly a homosexual and he did change.  The rebuttal, spoken by both Believers and non-Believers, is this belief that men and women are born with sexual orientation and it cannot be changed.  The author disagrees for many reasons.

Disclaimer 2: Many people know, there are so many variations of sexual attractions, needs and deviant behaviors.  This section on this topic does not claim or assert that the following steps may change a person's sexual attractions, needs and deviant behaviors which may require professional counseling and assistance.  It is the hope that if the reader is looking for possible methods, then this may be an approach.  Too often, in the Christian realm, there is advise given to people hurting that goes along the lines of "just pray and things will get better."  This is absolutely the starting point but more is needed as pointed out in Hosea 4:6 which requires knowledge!

Before listing some steps, there are some scriptures to contemplate.  While we are wonderfully made, we are not perfect because of the Fall at the Garden of Eden.

Psalm 139:14 I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.
Matthew 15:19 For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander.
Isaiah 55:8 For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord.
Jeremiah 17:9 The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?

A proposal of steps used to become a heterosexual person:

  1. Pray for the Holy Spirit to assist you moment by moment.
  2. Stop the same gender sexual activity.
  3. Try to join a self-help group that deals with all sorts of addictions and/or specifically sexual attractions.
  4. Work on fantasizing and visualization of a relation with someone of the opposite gender.  Use romantic movies and romantic materials that can include ones of sexual activities to work on the desires.  The materials should be equivalent to a 2017's movie rating of "R".  (Many Christians may find this objectional but it was used successfully by a friend of the author to gain the desire.  It is the opinion of this writer that people, in many cases, acquire the desire for same gender sexual relations for many reasons that can include visualization of attractive people of the same gender, which is one of many dangers involved in pornography.  There is the possibility, asserted by this writer and proven by the friend, that romantic materials can be used in a positive way.)
  5. When starting a relationship with someone of the opposite gender, do not discuss or bring up the past.  This is the same in a heterosexual relationships where it is not healthy to discuss previous relationships with the current relationship.  If somehow the person you are dating finds out about your past through other means then you will need to be prepared to discuss it but only in brief as it was the past that is no longer you.  Unfortunately, there is the potential that the person you are dating might break off the relationship because of it.  From your standpoint, the past is covered under the Blood of Jesus Christ through His Atonement on the Cross that was done for absolutely everyone!

Do people change their sexual orientation who were not born with it?

Consider the knowledge reported in TV documentaries and portrayed in fictional movies and TV shows where some people in prison participate in same gender sexual activities but then come out of prison to never do it again or develop a secondary sexual desire.  The question is why did they participate in it?  The possible answer, besides being forced, is the vast majority of us have a deep desire for love, companionship and sexual satisfaction.  This example, illustrates that sexual orientation can also be learned or acquired which then hopefully means that it can be changed. 

Also consider so many famous actors, musicians and even sport's superstars who get used to being worshipped by their fan base.  In too many cases, these people announce that they experimented in many types of sexual activities that include multiple partners and others of the same gender.  The possible reason that this occurs is they become addicted to the almost god-like worship which leads to inflated egos and pride, which God hates, that then puts these people into a realm of anything goes to increase the fan worship.  It seems like the list is almost endless of these people being exposed or coming out publicly on the matter to state that they are now bisexual or no longer heterosexual. 

It is obvious from the Scriptures that God designed sex to be something pleasing in a committed heterosexual relationship.  Using the right tools with submission to God can possibly help those in same gender sexual attractions.  We know that when King David was exposed in his affair with Bathsheba along with murder of Uriah, that David then asked for a clean new heart.  God forgave David and learn from the scriptures how God worked with David.
 

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