Growing Older
Loved ones Pass On

Growing older should be a good thing for everyone but there are some obstacles to overcome which requires a little understanding and faith in the Lord to guide us through.

Common problems to all of us that cause depression, loneliness, fear, anxiety and medical problems are listed here. Note that it is okay and perfectly normal to grieve where there may be a season of time to heal.  Here is a small list of events that we all face:

Note that it is okay and perfectly normal to grieve where there is a season as described in Ecclesiastes 3:1-8:

  1. To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
  2. A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
  3. A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
  4. A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
  5. A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
  6. A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
  7. A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
  8. A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.

The solution is actually very straightforward and only requires putting into action what we know from the scriptures as a whole. Before listing some scriptures consider this summary statements for moving forward in order of importance that are based on the Word of God:

  1. Strengthen yourself with daily time to learn more from the scriptures with reverence time to speak and hear from God.
  2. Focus always on daily, weekly, monthly and yearly goals.   The idea is to always find purpose in life at all ages.
  3. Treat each day as a victory that you are closer to spending eternity with God.
  4. Always know that you will be in eternity with your parents and other loved ones who have gone before you whom were in the Lord's keeping, so they are only temporarily absent from your life.  Knowing this will remind yourself that you are never alone and the reunion with God and others is coming where you are just waiting your turn to enter. There is perfect joy with God coming and perfect friendships with countless people whom you will be with in eternity.
  5. Exercise at least an hour a day, if possible, as God made our bodies to function healthier and with more mental clarity with exercise. It is shown that exercise releases positive endorphins for positive mood.
  6. Do not dwell on the past and in fact try not to reminisce at all unless it is to laugh and feel good.  Remember reminiscing can be a negative when it is used as a tool to escape reality.  The cliche is "remember the good old days" but when we all go through "the good old days" we don't know we are in the "the good old days" which then teaches us that we can make our time now "the good days"!
  7. Old photos are great to hang on the walls but they should be treasures and not memorials. If they are memorials that bring out negative thoughts such as loneliness, then remove them.
  8. Watching movies and sports are great but distance yourself from going beyond the movie or sports to find out about the people who too often have lives not pleasing to the Lord or even could have passed on.  The world is full of negatives and unfortunately many actors and sports persons whom have money, fame and power have fallen instead of using their public persona to encourage and lift up others.
  9. Stay away from using alcohol, marijuana or prescriptions as a "coping mechanism".  These mask a problem where no further explanation is needed.

A partial list of scriptures to consider

Extra: A book reference


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