Loved ones Pass On
Growing older should be a good thing for everyone but there are some
obstacles to overcome which requires a little understanding and faith in the
Lord to guide us through.
Common problems to all of us that cause depression, loneliness, fear, anxiety
and medical problems are listed here. Note that it is okay and perfectly normal
to grieve where there may be a season of time to heal. Here is a small
list of events that we all face:
- Our parents have passed on
- Our friends are passing on
- We are divorced, single or have friends who are alone
- Our children have independent lives that do not involve us as much as we
want them to
- We are not as physically mobile as we once were
Note that it is okay and perfectly normal to grieve where there is a season
as described in Ecclesiastes 3:1-8:
- To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the
- A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck
up that which is planted;
- A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to
- A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
- A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time
to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
- A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast
- A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to
- A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.
The solution is actually very straightforward and only requires putting into
action what we know from the scriptures as a whole. Before listing some
scriptures consider this summary statements for moving forward in order of
importance that are based on the Word of God:
- Strengthen yourself with daily time to learn more from the scriptures
reverence time to speak and hear from God.
- Focus always on daily, weekly, monthly and yearly goals. The
idea is to always find purpose in life at all ages.
- Treat each day as a victory that you are closer to spending eternity with
- Always know that you will be in eternity with your parents and other
loved ones who have gone before you whom were in the Lord's keeping, so they
are only temporarily absent from your life. Knowing
this will remind yourself that you are never alone and the reunion with God
and others is coming where you are just waiting your turn to enter. There
is perfect joy with God coming and perfect friendships with countless
people whom you will be with in eternity.
- Exercise at least an hour a day, if possible, as God made our bodies to
function healthier and with more mental clarity with exercise. It is shown
that exercise releases positive endorphins for positive mood.
- Do not dwell on the past and in fact try not to reminisce at all unless
it is to laugh and feel good. Remember reminiscing can be a negative
when it is used as a tool to escape reality. The cliche is "remember
the good old days" but when we all go through "the good old days" we don't
know we are in the "the good old days" which then teaches us that we can
make our time now "the good days"!
- Old photos are great to hang on the walls but they should be treasures
and not memorials. If they are memorials that bring out negative thoughts
such as loneliness, then remove them.
- Watching movies and sports are great but distance yourself from going beyond the
movie or sports to find out about the people who too often have lives not pleasing to the Lord
or even could have passed on. The world is full of negatives and
unfortunately many actors and sports persons whom have money, fame and power
have fallen instead of using their public persona to encourage and lift up
- Stay away from using alcohol, marijuana or prescriptions as a "coping mechanism".
These mask a problem where no further explanation is needed.
A partial list of scriptures to consider
- Concerning heaven and eternity, Rev 21:4 "He
(God) will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and ideath shall be no
more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things
have passed away."
- When King David lost his infant son from Bathsheba, the Holy Spirit shows us in
this scripture the knowledge of seeing again those we have loved whom are in
God's keeping "But now he is dead. Why should I fast? Can I bring him back again?
I shall go to him, but he will not return to me."
- In Mat 17:1-3, Jesus takes Peter, James and John to a high mountain
where they are visited by Moses and Elijah whom had died many centuries
before "(3) Just then there appeared before them Moses and Elijah, talking with Jesus."
- In Mat 27:52-53 we learn that the burial tombs of the departed saints
(believers) at Christ's death were opened and the saints appeared to many in
the city of Jerusalem "(52) The tombs were also opened and many bodies of the saints who had
fallen asleep were raised. (53) And they came out of the tombs after His resurrection, entered the holy
city, and appeared to many."
- In Heb 12:1 when considering those who have gone before us and Jesus "(1)
Therefore, since we are surrounded by
such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off every encumbrance and the sin that so easily entangles,
and let us run with endurance the race set out for us. (2)
Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter
of our faith, who for the joy set before Him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right
hand of the throne of God.…"
- We have ministering angels
encamping around us as written in many scriptures like Heb 1:7 "Are they not all ministering
spirits sent out to serve for the sake of those who are to inherit salvation?"
So we are never alone even when we do not see anyone. These are what
we all have heard as "Guardian Angels".
- Realize our time is short so we
should make the most of it. In Psalm 90:10 "As for the days of our life,
they contain seventy years, Or if due to
strength, eighty years, Yet their pride is but labor and sorrow; For soon it
is gone and we fly away."
- In Psalm 90:12 "So teach us to number our days, That we may present to You a heart of
Extra: A book reference
- 90 Minutes in Heaven by Don Piper. Read the book instead of the